When the man behind Dilbert lost his voice

I loved Dilbert when I was younger and used to read Scott Adams’ blog regularly back in the day.

His dry humour and sharp insights into both corporate and modern life was perceptive in highlighting absurdities and dysfunctions which people accepted as the norm back then.

And who has not met someone who completely exemplifies the Dilbert principle? 😂

At some point, however, I had to actively disengage from his material as he moved into increasingly divisive territory.

That shift and decline was striking to me; it seemed to take place around the same time he opened up about his longstanding struggle with spasmodic dysphonia, a voice disorder that affected his ability to speak publicly.

It’s the same condition which present US Health Secretary Robert F Kennedy Jr has discussed living with.

Coincidentally, Kennedy himself is also known for a number of widely disputed views.

I don’t know whether there’s any connection between the health struggles both went through and their later public positions, and I certainly don’t mean to suggest a causal link.

Nevertheless, it’s hard not to notice how different the later chapters of their life felt from their early ones, both before and after being afflicted with the condition.

I wonder whether their paths reflect a familiar pattern among many men who encounter a major personal challenge.

Perhaps they sought support from their network but when that help was not forthcoming, the resulting isolation led them to turn elsewhere and in a completely different direction.

I hope in his next comic strip or podcast, wherever he is, Adams reclaims the kinder, gentler voice that once shone through his cartoons.

May the afterlife be more lovely and less painful than the world he spent a lifetime lampooning.

Before “I do”: Pre-marital literacy and the skills for lasting love

When Bianca Tham, Residential Student Life Manager at NUS College, reached out to discuss a fireside chat with students on how we prepare for love before marriage even enters the picture, I welcomed the opportunity.

We spend years learning how to write essays and build careers, yet almost no time learning how to love well.

As our conversation unfolded, it became clear marital literacy might be a little early for undergraduates.

But pre-marital literacy – the knowledge, skills and attitudes we need before committing to a long-term partnership – is something many of us are already navigating, whether we realise it or not.

Please join me for this event, where I’ll reflect on my own lived experience and invite an open, honest conversation about how emotional awareness, personal values and self-care shape us and our relationships before we factor in plans for marriage.

Whether you’re single, dating, undecided or simply curious, this session aims to help us make more informed and resilient choices in love.

Before “I do”: Pre-marital literacy and the skills for lasting love
Date: Thursday, 29 January 2026
Time: 8.00-9.30pm
Venue: Cendana Master’s Commons, NUS College

Please register at https://bit.ly/NUSCpml

NUS College students: Please sign up early; spaces are limited to 20 pax.
Alum of USP (including the CCP and TDP) and Yale-NUS College: You’re warmly welcome to register too. Alum slots will be released once student places are filled.

Looking forward to a thoughtful evening of conversation, reflection and learning together.

The parable of the poisoned arrow

Fields of pandan, as far as the eye can see. Bali, 2024. (PHOTO: Laremy Lee)

The Parable of the Poisoned Arrow
(A Pooh-ddhist lesson on what really matters)

One morning in Hundred Acre Wood, Piglet is struck by a Tiny Startling Object

Instead of letting Kanga help – because she is splendid at helping – Piglet insists on knowing what shape the Object was, who may have tossed it, whether the wind was involved and so on

If Piglet waits for all the answers, the Object will go on startling Piglet in that very startly way Tiny Things sometimes do

Irrelevant things matter little when we have the means to alleviate the suffering in front of us

Nothing is more important than working to fix whatever’s causing the pain or dissatisfaction in our day-to-day lives

Not to say we should force solutions at all costs or settle for short-term fixes that don’t last

Rather, energy must be focused on addressing the real source of suffering, while steps that lead to healing are taken