What transformation really looks like

What we think transformation looks like
What transformation really looks like

This week, there were a few instances in which similar narratives* about transformation were recounted to me:

“It seems like I’m giving up… Maybe it’s due to the horrible week I’ve had. Some weeks I’m doing so well and some weeks I’m just, like, I don’t want to do anything.”

“I’m not very good at practising and being consistent… I get so frustrated at why I’m doing so well in some weeks and absolutely crap in others.”

In my responses, I thought I’d try something a bit different and shared the graphics above instead.

Within minutes, I received replies* that ranged from “😊🙏🏼” to “This is so on point… It makes a lot of sense”.

We’re so used to seeing the highlight reels of others that, much like the snapshots of transformation they share, we’ve come to expect change to be easy, and to take place at a snap of the fingers.

On the contrary, the transformation journey takes place over time and is fraught with challenges.

It’s messy, disappointments abound and it often feels like we’re taking two steps forward, only to move one step back.

But chaos is part of change.

It’s the stumbles that tell us we’re moving forward, and allow us to pause and look back to see the distance between then and now, to know how far we’ve come.

So keep walking, folks.

Today, we may feel like we’re in a negative region on the mood and change graph and that’s completely OK.

We have tomorrow to try again, and the next day, and the day after, and so on, until we become the change we want to see.

*Edited for confidentiality.

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Laremy Lee

A versatile educator, writer and editor, Laremy Lee (李庭辉) has the uncanny knack of being one of the few among his generation in Singapore who crafts compelling stories in different genres.

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