You can’t base relationships solely on what happens when you’re together. Because they’re also about what happens when you’re apart.
Author - Laremy Lee
A friend recently revealed to me that she was in love-limbo – that is, deciding between staying put with her partner or moving on to graze on greener pastures.
To help with her decision, I promised I’d share nuggets of knowledge on dating and romance that I’ve found over the years – an essential reading list, as it were.
I realised, after pasting all the links from the Lare-pository of Wisdom (hurhur) into an e-mail message, that it was actually worth a blog post.
So congratulations, everyone! You get to benefit from the spillover effect/positive externalities of an attempt to make good on a promise – or collateral damage, as it may turn out to be.
- Choosing a partner (before you start dating):
- How we end up marrying the wrong people
- How to pick your life partner (part 1 and part 2)
- The thing about love
- Great Expectations: The Soul Mate Quest (via)
- How we end up marrying the wrong people
- Building a good relationship (dating and marriage):
- Find out each other’s love language
- Take the relationship closeness inventory (online quiz or printable PDF)
- How to have a great relationship
- A shortcut to bonding with a romantic partner
- 15 honest questions the person you marry should be able to answer
- Masters of love: Science says lasting relationships come down to – you guessed it – kindness and generosity.
- Building a great marriage:
- UPDATED (Sun, 2 Aug 2015): Rules For A Happy Marriage: 4 Secrets From An Expert
The section on “How to build a great marriage” is pretty skimpy, for obvious reasons (I haven’t reached that stage yet, although the plan is to get there soon).
Nevertheless, feel free to leave a comment with a link to your favourite article, if anyone has stuff they’d like to add.
So you know how I like to predict how and why technology should change to cleave to our modern ways of living, right?
Hence, for my next trick, I’m going to ask: Technological powers-that-be, when are we going to turn our office numbers into work numbers for the mobile?
And mind you, I’m not talking about call forwarding.
I’m referring to an actual office line that can be combined with our present personal mobile phone line – but which we can choose to switch off when we’re out of the office.
Think about it. To create a clear divide between the professional and the personal, we have:
- Personal e-mail addresses and office e-mail addresses; and
- Personal phone lines and office phone lines.
Before the advent of mobile data technology, office tools were often fixed, and we had to enter the office to use those specific tools.
Now, we can do almost everything on the go; we can make personal calls on our mobile phones, and check our personal and office e-mail on the same device.
So at which point did companies say: “Hey! We’re gonna stop developing technology for office phone lines because there is no need to.”?
Because of this – lapse? change of focus? – we now have work-based communication taking place on our personal lines.
Some examples: Whatsapp office group chat messages, or text messages and voice calls from clients.
It’d be nice to have the option of setting “away from office” auto-replies on our work phone lines when on leave or after leaving the office, so we can draw a distinction between work and leisure.
Therefore, I’m calling this right here, right now, Lare-style: There’s a portion of the technology that’s lagging behind everything else when it comes to the modern office telephone line.
Technological powers-that-be, please do something about it. You’ll more than reap the rewards when everyone starts adopting this service.