Even land must lie fallow, from time to time, if it is to continue to produce life.
Tag - life
I didn’t have anything textual or visual to add to the conversation.
So I went down the aural route instead; I created a playlist I call “Ozymandias”.
- Street Fighting Man by The Rolling Stones
- Pride (In The Name Of Love) by U2
- Eye In The Sky by The Alan Parsons Project
- If You Tolerate This Your Children Will Be Next by Manic Street Preachers
- Behind Blue Eyes by The Who
- Everybody Hurts by R.E.M.
- I Will Follow You Into The Dark by Death Cab For Cutie
- Good Riddance (Time Of Your Life) by Green Day
- Viva La Vida by Coldplay
- Closing Time by Semisonic
Listen to it here on YouTube.
Interestingly, none of the artists that came to mind when creating it were Singaporean…
I thought I’d talk a bit more on the nature of quality time. (A primer here, if you’re not familiar with the concept.)
My take: When it comes to romance, neither of you is expected to give up your life for the other.
Your individual careers and hobbies are important too; you need to be whole yourself before you become part of a whole.
But the conventional wisdom is: if you really like someone, you’ll make the effort and give them time – in a reasonable quantity, but with maximum quality.
So you should be spending enough time together, and having a great experience while you’re at it.
At the end of the day, though, you can’t base relationships solely on what happens when you’re together. Because they’re also about what happens when you’re apart.
You still have to keep in touch – although this is subjective.
What is reasonable for some may be anathema for others; X may want an update every hour, on the hour, while Y may be comfortable with a daily summary.
This is where compromise begins, but if it ends there, then it is what it is.
And – as always – if it’s not happening, it probably ain’t gonna happen.