- There’s More to Life Than Being Happy | The Atlantic
“‘It is the very pursuit of happiness,’ Frankl knew, ‘that thwarts happiness.’ This is why some researchers are cautioning against the pursuit of mere happiness… ‘Happiness without meaning characterizes a relatively shallow, self-absorbed or even selfish life, in which things go well, needs and desire are easily satisfied, and difficult or taxing entanglements are avoided,’ the authors write”. - What are the three ways to train your brain to be happy? | Barking Up The Wrong Tree
Sounds like mumbo jumbo pseudo-science, but for people who find that they’re perpetually pessimistic/down/depressed/unhappy, consider doing this. - Life Skills: Ivanka Trump, Thich Nhat Hanh And Others On The Things Everyone Should Master By Age 40 | The Huffington Post
Some things you learn in school. Others, you learn from experience. But some things can neither be learnt at school nor should they solely be learnt from experience. This list has most of what you need to know. - Google’s Quest to Build a Better Boss | The New York Times
“Managers also had a much greater impact on employees’ performance and how they felt about their job than any other factor, Google found.‘The starting point was that our best managers have teams that perform better, are retained better, are happier — they do everything better,’ Mr. Bock says. ‘So the biggest controllable factor that we could see was the quality of the manager, and how they sort of made things happen. The question we then asked was: What if every manager was that good? And then you start saying: Well, what makes them that good? And how do you do it?'”
- 37 Conversation Rules for Gentlemen from 1875 | The Art of Manliness
Relevant for both women and men, even in this day and age.
Tag - communication skills
My first column in Esquire Singapore!
Confronting Non-Confrontation in Singapore
Singaporeans bitch too much. Or so the saying I’m loosely paraphrasing goes.
Case in point: how often do you see updates like this from your Singaporean friends on your social media networks?
“Get your daughter’s head out of my vagina, bitch.”
(Context: It was a crowded bus; the mother was seated and holding her baby girl in her arms. Unbeknownst to the mother, her baby’s head was pressing against someone else’s crotch.)
“Just boarded an empty train when a lady pushed me from behind and let out a loud ‘TSK’. So impatient for what? Bitch, right!”
Indeed. And that’s one of the reasons why I term such posts “bitch-rants”.
But before the feminists get on my case, let me further clarify that:
- The epithet “bitch” is usually – but not always – bandied about in a bitch-rant, because the rants are about bitchy people, regardless of gender; and
- The people ranting do so in order to bitch i.e. to get something off their chests.
Bitch-rants are so common nowadays that when I wake up and I don’t see any bitch-rants in my social networks, I actually start worrying and searching for one…
I can’t post the full text because of copyright reasons so please get a copy of the February issue of Esquire Singapore from newsstands today!
My first column in Her World!
Dear, Can I Go Out With The Guys?
Why should men ask for permission to have a boys’ night out? LAREMY LEE learns the answer – along with why guys need alibis.
Recently, two trends have emerged in my life:
- More and more of my engaged or married guy friends need to ask their fiancées or spouses for permission to hang out.
- More and more of said guy friends use me as their “alibi” when getting said permission.
No, it’s not as bad as it sounds. Let me explain…
I can’t post the full text because of copyright reasons so please get a copy of the February issue of Her World from newsstands today!